boy, oh boy!

I've never had a boyfriend. In fact, I haven't even had my "first kiss" yet. A lot of might be shocked to read this because by my age, most girls have already lost their virginity. But I am so lucky to be able to say that regardless of the status quo, I don't care. I don't care that I've never had a boyfriend or kissed a guy yet, I'm completely okay and I wish other girls had this mentality too.

The problem with girls these days have the distorted mentality that they need a boy to make them happy and it's ridiculous. It's sad and very wrong. There are thousands of other girls like me out there, but the difference with them is that they get depressed about it. They start thinking that something is wrong with them, they're just cursed, they'll never get a man, and most of all that they'll never be happy. None of that is true. When a girl can't seem to get a guy to like her, it's because there's something way better out there that God has planned for her. No you are not cursed because if God wanted to put a curse on you, he'd make it a lot worse than making you single for life. Yes you WILL get a man, or someone to love, you just need to be patient and remember that everyone has SOMEONE. How can a girl NEVER be happy if she doesn't have a soulmate? There are so many other things that creat happiness. Children, family, friends, playing a board game....we put a limit on happiness. We forget all the things besides being in love that make us happy.

I've had friends that get stuck in bad relationship after bad relationship and end up devoting their entire lives to trying to find the right guy and figuring out what's wrong with them and it's so unimportant. Girls don't need a man to make them happy and we need to realize that. There's nothing wrong with being single, and frankly speaking, it's insulting to ME when I hear girls say "god, I need a man" because I myself am single and am so utterly happy with that and then I see girls complaining about it without even trying to see that being single isn't that bad and we can feel complete and loved by doing and having other things in our lives. I'm not saying it's good to be single, everyone should be allowed to have someone and be married, we just don't need to make it a priority and be disappointed when we don't have a fling. Now, when you can't seem to find a guy to MARRY, that's a horse of a different color! Marriage is completely different than a boyfriend.

Not many people read this, other than my journalism professor, Toni, but I hope that one day girls my age realize the beauty in not having a man by their side or having their first kiss. It's not that bad, trust me, I've been in this spot since birth and I'm completely satisfied with having my close friends and my family in my life.